i guess i don't trust the definitions because i was raised christian. How i operate is i accept it happened and move forward; either it will happen again or i can trust that it won't. Is that forgiveness? i guess my definition of forgiving someone is just like i said, but a little more elaborate: i'm just able to trust whoever i need to "forgive" that whatever happened won't happen again. i don't usually have any reason to forgive, but i have every reason to accept the situation as a past event and move on. you know? i just don't really like articulating what seems intuitive, what's an old standard practice of mine.